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Maintaining plates and approach are connected in a cyclical process. The male will approach in order to meet girls and gain plates. After he finds himself dating, e.g., 3-5 new girls, there's a greater tendency for him to become complacent and decide he doesn't need to approach quite as much. He might ask himself why bother approaching in "high volume," since a little here and there is okay. This is because he views approach as a mere means to an end: he views it as a mere expedient to acquire plates, and that's it. He doesn't see the link between consistent approach and the generation of non-neediness and confidence. He doesn't realize that there's no entitlement: if he stops approaching (or decreases his volume substantially), his non-neediness levels will decline, and this will be reflected in his behavior accordingly. He'll be less able to maintain his frame and will come across less cut-throat in his interactions. His plates may lose interest, whereby they shed, and he's forced to resume higher volume approach (i.e., completing the cycle). Following the resumption of high volume, he will reflect on his interactions from the past several months, both with this plates and with new girls he met, and will see that he was more needy. This is how he will learn for himself that there's no entitlement. He will learn that approaching is like going to the gym: there's no entitlement to being jacked. It doesn't matter if he's worked out consistently for many years; if he stops working out as much, he will lose mass. Well approach is no different: if he doesn't approach as much, he will become more needy and face the consequences. This cyclical process is something I observe with most guys who've entertained some degree of approach practitionership. That is, they'll seem promising in terms of their consistency, where I'll see they're on the way up in terms of audacity and confidence, and then they become complacent and fade from approach. Some even attempt to intellectualize their decline, or justify it as though they don't need to approach as much. They might act as though they've risen above the need to approach. They're more mature and enlightened now. And I don't try to convince them otherwise. I know what's going to happen with their trajectory, and that's on them. That's for the male to learn for himself. He has to experience his own cycle(s) of fading non-neediness in order to realize that there's no entitlement and that he needs to maintain his approach volume. Some might even reach out to me many months after the fact: "I'm ready for you to add me back to the WhatsApp group." Then they'll have their months of resumed approaching, followed by fading again. In short, the "complacency stage" is a normal and predictable part of the approach process. Even if the male is seemingly good with approach, if he hasn't experienced a decline in his non-neediness secondary to becoming complacent, he has no mechanism via which to think the decline in volume is deleterious. If you want to maintain your plates, you need to always stay consistent with approach volume and recognize that there's no entitlement to high levels of confidence and non-neediness. Because if you stop your approaching, you'll lose the plates over many months, then be forced to approach again in higher volume. So my advice is to just never stop approaching. Plus, the confidence and non-neediness you gain from the approach process can be packaged + stored, and arbitraged + redirected to elements of your life external to dating. And I've talked about that before in my articles. When a guy is looking for incentive to approach apart from just the aspects of dating women, he should be aware that the confidence he gains...
Full article: https://mikemehlman.net/2020/11/29/how-to-maintain-you
