I always struggled with the idea of being kind because typically I was kind at the expense of myself I would put myself last. I would overgive. I would be overly empathetic and it cost me jobs, friendships, business, and more. I had to redefine kindness for myself given my codependent over giving tendencies. I hope this helps all those sweet spiritual people who are let people run over them in the name of being a good spiritual person.
