We’ve all been taught that it’s a good thing to give someone the benefit of the doubt? It essentially means to assume good intent, right? But when it comes to self-doubt, that changes the game. Let’s unpack who benefits when we dim our light and play small.
WHAT TO LISTEN FOR:
We tend to assume good intent [3:44]
When we always assume that the other person means well, we get harder on ourselves
Women are taught to act/react in a certain way
There are four main-reasons why we self-sabotage
The struggle to be empathetic
Self-doubt is dangerous [12:12]
Self-doubt doesn’t lift you up, neither does your other relationships
The “worker bee” mentality and imposter syndrome
Trusting that you always make the right decision and that you can figure out what to do next
Honoring your leadership
Giving the benefit of the doubt [26:40]
When you minimize yourself, you give up your power
Allowing yourself to be heard and seen
How you really gain self-awareness
Navigating the haze [30:25]
Choosing what you know is holding you back
The need for immediate gratification
Learning how to trust and forgive yourself
Unlearning the idea that you are a burden
Lessons around self-trust [41:24]
Seeing yourself for who you really are is needed for your healing
Your failures are part of your story
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE:
Listen to Take Up Space Sis by Toni Jones
Listen to So Ugly I’m Beautiful by Toni Jones
Listen to I See Me Mantras by Toni Jones
Listen to King’s Disease by Nas
Listen to Mr. Morale & the Big Steppers by Kendrick Lamar
TO STAY CONNECTED:
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