How do you feel about losing?
There can be winning in losing. The best kind of win is winning yourself back. I read that losing is freedom, and I never thought about that. I never aim to lose; I try my damnedest before I do. This concept was complex to grapple with. I had to think deeply about this, and I dove a bit further and focused on the relationship that I had to win. Dumping him, although sad, was also very freeing. I realized I don't have to get my hair done weekly, wear makeup all the time, attend dinners I don't want to go to. I was able to reclaim my time, and that was freedom. I had to lose something to gain something back.
Therefore, I reflected on what I had lost or been rejected from. This idea that failure, loss, rejection, is terrible but on the other side is freedom. Because the expectations have been dropped, you and I get to design the next phase of our lives in starting over. We always have the right to choose, although it doesn't feel that way when we equate loss. But loss and being lost equals freedom. It is a self-directed new start, as in losing a job. It is depressing, and y'all know I did a podcast about that, but in my loss, after the grief, I was able to direct myself to my dream career only because I was lost.
