.Glenn & Cherie share:
4:39 Creating a safe space in marriage for both to grow. Married, young and overcoming through major life changes together. Choosing to be committed and not having any examples to model after.
7:40 Keep people out of your intimate things/marriage. It could backfire.
9:44 How we knew we were meant to be together/ right for each other.
12:00 Marriage struggles. Infidelity and infertility. Couples therapy. Man’s perspective on learning to communicate and being the peace. Being intentional and becoming the example they didn’t have.
14:36 Have a plan B for when things don’t go according to plan.
16:34 Letting ego and pride go. Sacrifice and compromise. Balancing responsibilities. What tone do you want to set for your marriage? When one spouse manages something better.
19:00 You don’t have to win at everything. Don’t always need a comeback. Picking your battles. Power in the tongue and what you say or don’t say. Learning to take how your wife feels seriously from man’s perspective.
20:40 Setting the tone for marriage from both man's and woman's perspective.
23:30 The man’s perspective on how to become a better communicator, growing up in a society that tells men don’t be weak. Men have feelings and it doesn't make him less of a man. Learning to speak her love language. Don’t be so defensive with your wife. Older generation men not talking about feelings.
27:57 Turning marriage experiences into a ministry. Counseling is ok. Pray and counseling is ok. Having the fairytale wedding mentality then realizing it’s not. Needed conversations on challenges others may need help in having. Silent killers in marriage. Getting closer through struggles. Setting the example for even older couples when been together longer. Breaking generational curses.
32:00 Helping others through tough conversations such as infidelity. It doesn’t have to be a deal breaker. Creating more platforms on working through harder problems and topics people go through everyday but have no safe space to address.
35:09 On getting married young. Get a good sense of self. Experience happiness in marriage but it's not your partners job to make you happy. Do therapy. It’s okay to make mistakes and you’re not a “failure”. Make your marriage a safe space.
37:18 Getting married is easy. Staying married is the hard part. The ring doesn’t change who you are as a person or your ethics or love for each other. You should already be that man or woman you need to be for your spouse. Do not go into marriage expecting yourself or your spouse to change.
AND SO MUCH MORE!
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