On this episode of Beauty in Behavior we are going to talk about The Roles we play!
Boundaries are how we get our needs met. It isn't about anyone else, it is about ourselves. Often we want people to change, to take care of our needs. When we think about boundaries as restrictions on other people that's why they feel so heavy and powerless. Boundaries are Empowering, we become the leader in our own life, the creator.
Traditional model to see the contrast of our conditioning. The Traditional model is modeled on judgement. When the judgment is judged as good or right it is seen as right, when it is judged as not good or bad it is seen as wrong and we blame. We blame others for how we feel. There are not healthy boundaries in the traditional model.
Upgrade Conscious - Intentional Model - Based in acceptance. Lean into it. This is what happening in this moment and this is how we move through it. Taking ownership instead of blaming. It leads to Encouragement!! Learning and growing though mistakes! It leads to connection in all parts of ourselves. When we are connected to ourselves we can make meaningful deep connections with others. Healthy boundaries are established an maintained in this model.
Certain roles we put on ourselves. Inspired by David Emerald and Dr. Steve Karpman.
Notice when you are playing these roles.
Drama Roles - Victim, Persecutor, Rescuer
Empowerment Roles - Creator, Challenger, Coach
We need to practice these models on ourselves before we use them on others.
My challenge for you is to when you become aware of the drama roles you are playing and see if you can shift to those empowerment roles.
If you want to go deeper, become the leader of your life, book a call with me to talk about the possibilities.
Diane Sorensen
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