The Spirit must transform all the ways we have chosen to define love and relationship as well as responsibility, so that we love as we have been loved, we are joined relationally to those the Father has sent for us to be joined to, and we do only what He wants us to do, when He wants us to do it, say what He wants us to say, when He wants us to say it, and only go where He wants us to go, when He wants us to go.