00:50 - What course correcting miscommunication is 02:00 - Course correcting with my son 06:00 - Being a parent and mom guilt 07:12 - Misinterpretation of my comment with my business partner 09:12 - Having courageous conversations 11:40 - Being unattached to the results when having a courageous conversation 12:30 - Being responsible for the impact our conversation is going to have 13:25 - Accountability of our conversations 14:05 - Understanding that people have different perspectives 15:00 - Importance of mindful conversations in adults and children 15:30 - Course correcting our self-talk
In This week’s Mind ReMapping Moment, we talk about Course correcting mis-communication.
How do we course correct mis-communication? Because as humans we are bound to make errors and there’s definitely going to be miscommunication due to different interpretations and models of the world. The best part is that you can course correct mid-communication or post communication.
A recent incident with my son where he hung on the shower head a little bit harder than it popped out a few days ago so we talked about the consequences that he's gonna contribute to the fix and it was all good. Yesterday while I was going to get something from the cabinet I noticed the hinges were coming off, so I was upset and raised my voice which is something I strive not to do. So I was asking myself how do I turn that into a lesson and also how do I self regulate, so we had a conversation this morning in the car and I explained to him that he’s going to contribute in the fixing of the shower head and replacement of the screws.
As parents we usually try to be the best parents we can be even trying to be perfect parents (which doesn’t exist) so much so that if we lose it at times we end up feeling guilty, what we need to realize is that the fractured communication can be mended.
I had a miscommunication with my business partner where I made a comment that was taken personally in a negative way which wasn’t my intent, I noticed her body language shift and because of the relationship we have she felt safe to communicate which helped me apologize then course correct the communication and mend the conversation.
When we have courageous conversations we open up a dialogue to get deeper into understanding why what we said landed as harmful and the feedback we get helps us course correct the communication.
Everyone has different models of the world due to past experiences and trauma, so if you get to have a courageous conversation and the other person is unwilling to course correct then we ought to move in a way that feels best for us. When we begin to be responsible for the impact our communication is having, even before we communicate it, then it will lead to more mindful speaking and communicating.
The most challenging thing to course correct is our self-talk because a lot of times the things that we say to ourselves are the result of deeper values and belief issues that are hidden in our unconscious.
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