To preserve your true identity despite the pressure around you need wisdom, discipline and courage. Understanding who you are like you know your name or gender is the goal. Even though not owning who we are is not totally our choice, it comes from the irrational feedbacks we get when we try to be ourselves(a balance is required here), these things gets to us and then a conditioning takes place over time, which leads to acting someone else. You need to identify the source of this negativity and treat with urgency.
