Compassion is underrated. Let's talk about the importance and impact of it! I'm so happy to be with you. Today on the podcast we are talking about compassion. Self-compassion and compassion in general. This is vital on the healing journey. If it wasn't modeled to you, and you dont even know where to start with being compassionate towards yourself or the other people around you then I'm really glad you're here.
I'm gonna try to break it down, I'm gonna try to simplify it for you. Compassion is connected to living from your heart. It's gonna take consideration of yourself and others. If you have a raging inner critic who likes to tell you what are you doing wrong, who likes to point out the flaws in yourself, and others. Side note -The voice that we hear, the inner critic, is often learned.- You may have had a parental figure, a caregiver, or someone else very impactful in your life, that looked at life through that extremely critical lens. We subconsciously pick it up and it's a very learned response. It's a learned inner voice. It doesn't mean that you are the critique. We can separate that critical voice from us, and say
- "Oh, I hear you but I don't need to accept and believe and agree with what are you saying right now."
The inner critic always wanna point a finger at you, and point a finger at others and it's just that, it's a very critical and judgy voice. The self-compassion, the compassionate voice, definitely going have to challenge the inner critic. Just to give you a little bit of a back story, I used to have a raging inner critic. I was far from self-compassion, I was very hard on myself. I did things that were physically growling, to prepare myself. I needed to be prepared for whatever might come ahead. Let me just do these things now, to make sure I've got what it takes, and that I'm tuff.
And all of that might be okay, but what was fuelling was not compassion. And I looked at myself in the mirror and, automatically was disgusted with myself. I saw all the things I dislike. Doesn't matter what the scale said, I was never happy with how my body looked. That I didn't look good. That's the thing whit this, when we are critical of ourselves when we see ourselves from a critical, judgy lens, It doesn't matter how we are going to show up, you are never going to be satisfied or happy. It may not even matter how other people show up, you may not be satisfied with them as well.
It's deep work, it's heart-centered, and it changes over time as we practice. Yes! It is necessary to practice being compassionate towards yourself and others.
And the more you learn how to be compassionate towards yourself, you will be more compassionate to others.
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