Sex is a messy topic. We all know that. It’s complicated, confusing, and can be damaging to our mental health. Conversations about it are fraught with misconceptions and at times flat-out incorrect information. That’s why discussions like today’s are so important. They give us the opportunity to talk about sex in a safe, clinical, and nonjudgemental place.
In this episode, Jeff has a chat with licensed master of social work and psychotherapist, Tyler Buchiero from Rochester Center for Sexual Wellness. Tyler has a particular interest in working with individuals struggling with sexual functioning problems, as well as intimacy issues and LGBTQIA-related concerns. He works through the lens that the understanding and intervention in these complex life experiences is driven by the strength of the therapeutic relationship. To that end, safety is foundational to all treatment, as is the pursuit of the emotional truth of the situation.
Due to the nature of this episode, we advise that you keep it away from sensitive ears.
And just a reminder, this podcast is educational in nature and not medical advice. If you need medical advice, please seek out the appropriate medical professional.
Notes:
- Why would someone seek out a sex therapist over a traditional therapist?
- What issues are addressed in sex therapy?
- What do people talk about when they come in?
- Why Tyler decided to specialize in sex and why sex therapy is even a thing
- How people think guys talk about sex versus how they actually talk about sex
- Stigmas, perceptions, and the truth about what men and women think regarding sex
- Sex versus intimacy and how they work together (or not)
- What men need to feel connected to another individual in a romantic and sexual way
- The common concerns men have regarding sex and the expectations of society
- Besides medical issues, the number 1 cause of erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and other sexual performance issues
- How the conversation with a sex therapist starts
- Fixing a dead bedroom
- Consent and how asking for it, but also how it can be incredibly sexy to do so
- How treatment has changed for members of the trans community in recent years
- Audience Q&A
Links:
- Yes, No, Maybe Lists: https://selfservetoys.com/resourcecenter/favorite-yesnomaybe-lists-available-online/
- “She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman” by Ian Kerner: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000FC1PRK/
- The Rochester Center for Sexual Wellness: https://rochestercenterforsexualwellness.com/
- Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Site: https://www.pornhub.com/sex/
- Sex and Relationships - A Conversation with Pornhub's Dr. Laurie Betito: https://anchor.fm/visibleman/episodes/Sex-and-Relationships---A-Conversation-with-Pornhubs-Dr--Laurie-Betito-e160p5v
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-TALK (800-273-8255) or text "VM" to 741741
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) Loss Survivors: https://afsp.org/ive-lost-someone
- AFSP After an Attempt: https://afsp.org/after-an-attempt
- National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) for family members and caregivers: https://www.nami.org/Your-Journey/Family-Members-and-Caregivers
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