If you are married or in a long term relationship - I want you to think about your meals together - specifically dinners.
If you are dating, I want you to think about your dining out dates.
What comes to mind? Is it a conversation that ends in an argument? Is it a conversation that ends in a mutual solution? Is it avoided? Is the time together intentional? Do you spend most of it on your phones? When you are trying to pick somewhere to eat, what are you focusing on?
If you focus more on the food than on the outcome of the time together - you’re doing it wrong. It should never be about the food.