In today's episode of the podcast, we're going to be talking about how to transform self hate into self love. We’re going to start by talking about what self hate might look like in your life. There's a lot of ways that we practice self hate without actually realizing it.
Ways self hate might be showing up in your life:
- working yourself past the point of burnout
- how you’re treating your physical bod
- anxiety
- not pursuing things that you actually desire
- the way that you speak about yourself
- the people and places you spend your time
-people pleasing
-perfectionism
These are often rooted in the subconscious beliefs that you are not good enough, worthy enough, capable enough, etc. So rather than confidently showing up in the world as your most authentic self, you keep yourself restricted and keep yourself small, which is the opposite of self love and self acceptance.
If you go out in the world, with the intention to be liked, and people don't like you, then you’ve failed at your intention. But if instead you learn to set the intention of rather than going out in the world to be liked, go out into the world with the desire to be authentic, to be true, to be your true self, then when you go out into the world, and you show up as this version of yourself, if people like you, you were successful at what you did, if people do not like you, you were still successful at what you did, because your intention was not dependent on other people's perceptions of you and other people's views of you. That is an act of radical self love.
Naturally as you start to do this, there are going to be people and things in your life that fall off. And that's okay. Because those things were only in alignment with the version of yourself that was small, the version of yourself that you compacted and constricted and restricted, in order to be loved, validated, approved of and respected. The beautiful thing is, in our life as things fall off, it creates space for new things to be born. And these things are in alignment with that true version of yourself.
And so there's no one path to this, it looks very different for everybody. For me, there was a lot of self care that went into this every single night putting oils in my diffuser, washing my face, putting my phone in a totally different room, reading my book, spending time with my partner. Waking up in the morning, not going on my phone. Getting movement practices, meditating, spending time with spiritual texts, journaling, all sorts of things like that just to have those moments of intimate connection with myself and showing myself care and showing myself love. As this became a practice, it became a practice in other areas of my life too.
Self love is something you embody, not something that you do.
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