In this episode I'm talking about the wound of abandonment. Like everything I've talked about so far on the podcast, I have personal experience of this wound as my father left, and was persuaded to stay away, when I was about 6. All I knew was that my dad had gone, I didn't really know why and I really missed him. Life carried on and it is only relatively recently that I have been able to see how much this abandonment affected me. It has shaped who I was and who I am now ,every bit as much as my mum's drinking.
Abandonment wounds, left unaddressed, can significantly impact adult functioning and interpersonal relationships. Abandonment is a primal fear and the anxiety that originated from my early abandonment experience left me feeling like I couldn't count on others to take care of me or be there for me in the way I needed. It resulted in me disconnecting from others, not asking for support, not accepting support when it was offered and not letting people get too close (amongst other things). Healing the wound has allowed me to step into a much truer version of myself and experience meaningful connections. I also talk about other ways the abandonment wound shows up.
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Production: Jay Herbert
Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware
