Fellow COA Josh Connolly is a Nacoa ambassador, Resilience Coach and a general all round fabulous human being. It was such a treat to talk to him and this conversation is full of such good stuff. Josh tells us about discovering that COA is a thing and we go on to talk about the many ways us COAs are affected by our parents' drinking and none of them are actually the alcohol. As Josh says in our chat, if we are able to dive deep enough it all makes sense and allows us to have great self-compassion for ourselves. This is transformative stuff.
COAs experience trauma and yes that trauma has an impact but what has the greatest impact is that the very people who were supposed to make us feel safe and loved in all our emotions weren't able to do that and so we grow up not feeling lovable in all our emotions. We also talk about the part our sensitivity plays in our experience.
Controversially, as it turns out, I talk about the freedom I found from being estranged from my alcoholic mother and her subsequent passing away. It was my ultimate act of survival, not that I realised that at the time.
Check out Nacoa (nacoa.org.uk) if anything in this episode resonates with you as there are so many resources available to help COAs, no matter where you are on your journey.
You can get in touch with me to talk about anything in this episode, previous episodes or to let me have feedback. I'd love to hear from you.
You can find Josh at https://www.joshconnolly.co.uk/ and on Instagram @josh_ffw.
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Production: Jay Herbert
Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware
