Recently a client was telling me how great they felt after culling their "friends" on Facebook. They wanted to reduce it to a core group of people that they wanted to share their posts with and whose posts they wanted to see. They had been through the whole accumulating friends, and admitted the validation they felt because of it, but now they realised that not everyone's posts left them feeling good. As we were talking I realised that this is an act of radical self-care as well as establishing boundaries.
In this episode I talk more about boundaries and how I see them. I also talk about what we think might happen if we put boundaries in place. Being clear about who you let into your inner world and who you don't is a self-honouring act and also one of self-care. Something many of us don't do enough of, in my opinion.
It is not selfish to honour what you need. If we are looking to make changes, it can be helpful to reflect on how our past might have conditioned us to be how we are. Extreme planning, for instance, stops us being in the moment, being able to be in flow and stops us being open to fun, joyful and impactful moments. I was a planner and a few years ago I had the constant thought of "there must be more to life than this" running through my head.
I had ticked off all the boxes of what I was told should make me happy - career, husband, house, kids, dog - and I was miserable. It's very confusing when everyone tells you how well you're doing but you feel dead inside. I had a deep desire to know that there was something more.
Send me a message to let me know if you can relate to this episode.
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Production: Jay Herbert
Original music: Jay Herbert and Alex Ware
