Episode Summary:
In this 100th episode, the podcast delves into the book "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency" by Terri Cole, specifically focusing on Chapters 1 and 2. The host explores Cole's redefinition of codependency, moving beyond the traditional association with addiction to the concept of High-Functioning Codependency (HFC). The episode examines the characteristics of HFC, including over-functioning, auto-advice giving, difficulty receiving, poor boundaries, people-pleasing, a strong need for external validation, high empathy, being out of touch with one's own feelings, and conflict avoidance. The podcast further discusses how HFCs can fall into patterns of burnout, exhaustion, and resentment. Finally, the role of societal, familial, and peer messaging in the development of codependent behaviors is explored, using the example of a successful lawyer.
Show Notes:
Episode: Episode 100 - Book Review: "Too Much" by Terri Cole (Chapters 1 & 2)
Key Topics:
Terri Cole's book, "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency"
Traditional vs. new definitions of codependency
Characteristics of High-Functioning Codependency (HFC)
Over-functioning, auto-advice giving, difficulty receiving
Poor boundaries, people-pleasing, need for external validation
High empathy, out of touch with own feelings, conflict avoidance
The path to burnout, exhaustion, and resentment for HFCs
Influence of societal, familial, and peer messaging on codependency
Breaking free from codependent cycles
Call to Action:
Read "Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency" by Terri Cole
Reflect on personal patterns of over-giving and self-sacrifice
Tune in to the next episode for more insights on reclaiming personal power and creating healthy boundaries.
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Rachel Collins LCPC (she/her)
https://strideforwardcounseling.com
