Communication is the foundation of every healthy relationship including dating, love, family friends and work. Yet with the people, we are the closest to, we assume that they will know us well and will automatically understand what we want and what we need from them. When that doesn't happen you get disappointed and it can build resentment in your close relationships.
When you first click with someone, they do get you and it happens easily. It feels amazing to just click with them and have someone finally gets you! You feel heard, seen and understood. It generally happens without any effort.
You will finish each other sentences, do anything to make each other happy and feel you 'get' each other and easily meet each other's needs.
Then life gets in the way and those things fall away.
This is the time when communication issues come up. You may hear yourself saying - 'If they really cared they would have .......', 'If they loved me they wouldn't have acted that way'.
You expect that if they really cared they would know what you need and end up feeling resentful when they don't.
In this podcast, I talk about how that happens and how to communicate so you are heard.
