Description

This week on the Men at the Movies podcast, we belly up to the Tender Bar starring Ben Affleck and Tye Sheridan. One of the most important challenges we face is choosing what voice we listen to: will we listen to the voice of the imposter, the false father, or our true father who bestows our identity? When we don’t receive validation and approval, we end up seeking it from all the wrong places. Our most important resource is the relational capital we build with those around us. So come on in, we’ll back up your next drink, and let’s discover God’s truth in this movie.

Questions

• What does relational capital look like to you? Who has given it to you? Who have you contributed to?
• Who has encouraged/supported/believed in you? How has that contributed to where you are today?
• Where do you feel like you screwed things up?
• How did your father validate you? How did he invalidate you?
• Where do you search for validation? Women? Work? Achievement? Competition?
• Where do you feel like you’re not good enough?
• How do invest in what you’re good at?
• If you could get paid for anything, what would you do?
• Where do you feel like you’re an imposter? Like you’re faking it and afraid someone will find out?

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Edited and mixed by Grayson Foster (https://graysonfoster.com/)

Audio quotes performed by Britt Mooney, Paul McDonald, and Tim Willard, taken from Epic (written by John Eldredge) and Song of Albion (written by Stephen Lawhead).

Southerly Change performed by Zane Dickinson, used under license from Shutterstock