Do you fall into the perfectionism trap? When does your desire to do good work and perform well become a problematic stumbling block? According to this week’s host, the answer is when we’re doing hard work to matter, rather than doing hard work that matters. Emotional wellness coach, Erika Shepard comes to the show to talk about the dangers of perfectionism and how to stop falling into its trap.
Erika believes in a world where people don’t just know that they’re good enough, they actually feel that they’re good enough. She is an international speaker, coach and healer where she empowers perfectionists to use their innate abilities to restore consistent peace, calm and joy. She lives by the mantra: love can’t be known, it needs to be experienced. When you spend time with Erika, you’ll go on a powerful journey of self-discovery and self-love.
Some Memorable Quotes:
13:45- “Perfectionism gives us the validation that we seek and then we confuse it with love. Then love becomes performance based and conditional.”
14:20- “At the end of the day, perfectionism is about not getting enough love.”
17:00- “Through listening to our emotions, we can get more aligned on our path, especially the emotion of joy. Joy is our compass North. We are here to experience love and joy.”
20:20- “It’s not that you’re not doing enough. It’s that you aren’t leaning into you already being enough. You already are enough.”
3 steps to get the love you need without falling into the perfectionism trap:
1-Build a relationship with yourself for self-love and self-validation
2-Listen to your emotions and embrace all of them
3-Build a bridge from where you are to where you’re going and how you want to feel
Erika’s mantra: “Love can’t be known. It needs to be experienced.”
Enroll in Erika’s emotional health and healing from perfectionism courses: www.erikashepard.com
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