Welcome to Day 29 of the 30-Day “Living an Authentic Life Challenge.”
I am Tanya E. Hood and today for this 30-Day Challenge we will be discussing Family.
This is a challenge that you can take as deep as you desire and apply
as much of it as you want. It will help you be clear about your purpose, enhance your community, build and strengthen your legacy, operate in excellence, and have a family dynamic that can stand the test of time.
Those elements create a firm foundation for families to be built upon
but sometimes families are created out of our comfort. I got married at 21. When my first husband and I got together it was shortly after my grandmother's death and he brought me comfort. I was a comfort zone for him as well, so our marriage did not have the deep roots that were necessary to sustain it and as a result, it fell apart.
The breakdown of that relationship left two little souls stuck in the middle
of chaos and trauma they were never supposed to experience. When we choose relationships out of our comfort, we don't think about the long-lasting impact that it will have. For some, the relationship started simply because they were cute. There were no other elements taken into consideration. For others, the relationship was created because you were lonely. When this is the foundation, children suffer, legacy suffers, and communities suffer.
There are about 407,000 children in foster care in the US alone. I shared with you previously that there are over 18.5 million children in the U.S. who live with just their mother or their father. That’s 1 in 4 children. Half of all the children born in the US live with a single parent. A lot of that came as a result of us deciding to build relationships in our comfort zone.
We cannot keep creating families out of our comfort zone. Because I'm divorced, I've gotten the opportunity to see some of the things that should have been put in place as a firmer foundation to ensure that my family stayed whole. A major element that I should have established was being crystal clear about who I am at the core of my being. Knowing who you are will help you make a decision about the relationships that you're in now.
If you are in a relationship that you know was created out of comfort, separate yourself from that now if you can. If there is a way to build a firmer foundation, then build it. Hopefully, the two of you can find a way to make it work and grow together, but whatever you do fix it and fix it now because when you enter into a new season of your life, you often outgrow
that place of comfort.
That growth has been the disruption that has ended a lot of marriages. Do what is necessary to be clear about who you are, know where you're going, and what your purpose is to do. Build a relationship that is complementary to your growth and development so, you can end the breakdown and the fallout that often happens.
Day 29, family
Disclaimer: Do not any calls or comments that are not supportive or helpful. I am not advocating the breakup or divorce of any relationship but what I do know to be true is that if your relationship is not built on the foundation that it is supposed to be built on, it will fall apart and breakdown will follow.
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