In this episode, The Barakah Effect team has a look at the typical day in the life of the contemporary family man, the challenges that we face, examples from the deen in fulfilling this role, and we explore strategies on how to be better in our roles as family men, especially as husbands, fathers, and children to our parents!
So what does it mean to be a family man in light of our deen?
The family is the foundational cornerstone of a successful society, and the family man plays a key role in leading the family unit
Allah mentions in the Quran,
يٰٓاَيُّهَا الَّذِيْنَ اٰمَنُوْا قُوْٓا اَنْفُسَكُمْ وَاَهْلِيْكُمْ نَارًا
O you who believe, save yourselves and your families from the fire (Surah At-Tahrim, 6)
When one really reflects on this ayah, we begin to appreciate the weight of the responsibility placed on the person with respect to their responsibilities on their family.
So how do we do so effectively, while balancing the heavy responsibilities of our day-to-day duties in our jobs, and personal Islamic obligations?
Join us and find out!
00:00:00 Intro
00:04:13 About being a family man
00:07:15 Getting expectations right
00:09:55 Of absent fathers & negligence
00:14:23 Human limitations & extremes
00:19:09 What parent do you want to be?
00:22:58 Nobody said it was easy, but it has immense rewards
00:26:29 The best of you are the best to your families
00:31:40 Parenting between great reward and severe punishment
00:33:53 Anas bin Malik firsthand experience as a child with Prophet Muhammad
00:35:45 Abu Salamah's impact on his wife
00:37:57 Stories about the 11 wives commenting on each of their husbands
00:43:37 A man's true happiness is in his household
00:47:40 Syaikh Ibn Baz advise on working from home
00:50:10 Quantify your quality time at home
00:54:00 Don’t be a thermometer rather than be a thermostat
00:57:35 Reality check: Children are detached from reality
00:59:00 Mistakes when giving advice
01:04:56 Who tries to be patient, Allah will help you to be patience
01:05:00 Teamwork: Help each other to attain Taqwa
01:11:46 Time block to spend time with your family
01:15:00 It’s a sin to trick your child
01:19:30 The best time to educate our child is during commute time
01:23:00 How do you make time for your spouse when you have kids?
01:27:50 Communicate your expectation clearly
01:31:31 Give your spouse their “me time”
01:35:20 Know your spouse and don’t compare them with others
01:39:40 Its a lifelong learning process
01:44:08 Reality check: How are we to our family?
01:48:08 What would they say about you when you die?
01:52:46 Have mercy to others, especially to your family members
01:58:10 Conclusion
