Your brain is clinging to certainty, chemistry, and old stories. In this session I explain mental loops after toxic relationships—and how to unhook with grounding, grief work, boundaries, and a simple 30-day pattern interrupt.
This video forms part of a larger body of work on my YouTube channel on relationships
What’s inside
• Dating filters: attachment, communication, red flags• Loops & the brain: safety, uncertainty, chemistry
The Dot-Circle Thought Audit (1 minute)
Pattern interrupts: mantra/breath, focus swaps, novelty•
Grief, no-contact windows, self-compassion
• Prompts + affirmations to rebuild your story
Links
• 30-Day Reset: [link]
• If your mind keeps replaying the relationship—arguments, “what ifs,” fantasies, regrets—you’re not broken. You’re in a loop. In this bonus session I walk through why loops happen (brain safety, uncertainty, trauma bonds) and exact tools to unhook: grounding, grief work, boundaries, and a 30-day pattern interrupt. You’ll learn Early dating filters: attachment, communication, boundaries, red flags.
What mental loops are & why the brain clings to them .
How trauma bonds + dopamine/oxytocin keep you stuck
The Dot-Circle
Thought Audit (1-minute awareness practice)
Pattern interrupts: mantra reps, breath/grounding,
mindful resets
Grieve fully (no-contact windows) without spiraling Replacing loops with new focus (hobbies, movement, novelty)
Self-compassion, reframing, and building a healthier story
Try this now•
Dot-Circle Audit What thoughts/memories loop most—and how do they make me feel?
What feelings am I avoiding (grief, anger, shame, fear)?
Which 3 grounding practices will I use when a loop starts?
What new truth/story about myself am I choosing going forward?
AffirmationsI am safe and I release what no longer serves me.
Each day I grow stronger and more peaceful.
My mind is becoming calm and clear.
I am worthy of healthy, loving relationships.
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Tags: mental health, breakup recovery, narcissistic abuse, trauma bond, mindfulness, breathwork, journaling, attachment, boundaries
