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Episode 72

After totaling his car and getting his DUI, Kris entered a substance abuse class.

“I leaned into this program. We had 20 different types of papers we had to write…I got real with myself.

• Did I really at that moment think I’ll never go drink and drive again?


• Did I really at that moment think that “Oh, this was my wake-up call?”

No, I kind of had had enough personal development to go: “If I’m here it's for a reason. Let me give it all of what I got”

and in the process of going through … this … questionnaire… I started to realize that my relationship with this thing was an abusive relationship and I started going:

• If that's an abusive relationship I wonder if that's the only one that showed up.


• How many other ones do I have?

And this is what I got to and the meat of it was:

• me and me we’re having the biggest fights every single day


• me and me didn't believe in my potential


• me and me that was talking negatively to myself all the time


• me and me that was afraid that I would never receive what I saw that other people had


• me and me that was afraid that I would not be a useful tool and a person in the universe 


• me and me that really had to do the work

And I realized that at any given moment the work can be anything that I want it to be. It can be that DUI class, it can be having a conversation with you, it can be paying for a course, it can be a conversation with my wife or my children or an employee or a bum on the street that's under the bridge.

I’ve lived since that time a very much more willing to look internally and ask myself some simple questions. Does my gut tell me that this is the right or wrong thing to do, not my head, not my heart, but when I sit real still what am I hearing and I’m telling you, Gail, the weirdest part about it is until I had that major oopsie, thank goodness it didn't hurt anybody, including me, I couldn't hear what my gut was telling me because my head was so much in the way or my emotions were getting ripped left and right; whether it's I’m angry at this networking group or I’m angry at this customer or this employee or blah, blah. It was either emotions or this circuitry up here trying to work things out and what I started to realize is that I intuitively know my truth and every human right now listening to your podcast, they know their truth.”

Listen as Kris and I dive deep into releasing shame and finding your truth.

Kris Whitehead, owner of New England Custom Design, APEX Director, founder of Iconic Alliance

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