I (Carrie) apologize for sounding so sick in this podcast. It's because I am super sick.
This week I got an Instagram message from a man selling his copyediting services and there were five incredibly obvious typos in his pitch. I'm talking about two words combined, misspelled words. Double punctuation at the end of a sentence.
It was sad.
So, there's another guy on the internet who makes a ton of money helping other people be writers and I'm sure he's lovely, but I find him incredibly frustrating.
Why?
He has a page all about writing advice and in that advice he has bullet points to make things simple because apparently people who want to be writers need things simple? Who knows.
Don't be lazy. Don't sound stupid.
Don't worry about being good. Just write.
Hm.
Don't be a perfectionist.
Yeah.
Look. I'm sure he's helped a ton of people and his bullet points must have deeper meaning and insight, but here's the thing. Writing isn't about bullet points. Writing is about soul and depth. Writing is about communication and building worlds through words that create image and resonance.
Remember a lot of people are just trying to make money off you. Sad, but true. And some of these people are amazing and professionals and some aren't. You have to sort the good from the bad.
Does your brain work exactly like your BFF's? Your mom's? You're dog's? No. It doesn't. All advice doesn't work for everyone. It's okay to be the writer who works in spurts, who doesn't outline, who writes every day. There's no one right way to write anymore than there is one right way to human.
When you get really crap advice at your writing critique group, or workshop or from your mentor or even your agent? And it just feels wrong?
That probably means it is. Don't let group think or even an expert sway you from the truth of your story.
Here's the thing. If one writer publishes 100,00 copies? That doesn't make them a better writer than the one who publishes 10. There's a lot of stuff called marketing that goes on behind the scenes that makes one author have high sales. If one author always gets invited to conferences and you don't? It doesn't mean you suck. It might be that other author is good at schmoozing. Be proud of who you are and be who you are. Don't try to emulate the people who you think are successful. Emulate yourself.
Seriously. Blow off the comparisons, the advice that doesn't work. Study the craft, the books YOU love, notice sentence structure, discover why you like the stories you like and then think about why YOU want to write your story, dig deep into why it matters to you.
If you're going to pay people to help you, please do it with someone reputable. Please do it with someone who can spell. And please do it with someone who gives you consistent advice that resonates.
Some people suck and just want to use you for money or cute Instagram pictures. Avoid those people.
