Because our relationship with God has changed through Jesus, our relationships with those around us must change for Jesus. Your job as a husband or wife is to reflect Jesus to your spouse. You are to act towards them as a person filled by the Spirit working to represent Jesus to them through the role and responsibilities that you occupy.
Colossians 3:18-19, 3:1-4, 3:18-4:1; 1 Corinthians 11:3; John 5:19, 6:38, 14:28; Ephesians 5:23; Galatians 3:28; Genesis 2:23, 2:18; Ephesians 5:25