March is a weird one. It’s the start of spring, a time for new beginnings, but for host Caitlin Fisher, it’s also a heavy traumaversary—marking seven years since leaving an abusive relationship. In this episode, Caitlin unpacks what healing looks like (spoiler: it’s pretty messy), how trauma responses sneak into even the most mundane moments, and what it’s like to be in a healthy relationship while still unlearning old survival patterns.
TL;DR: Expect deep feels, a little self-compassion pep talk, and maybe even a “Wow, I thought it was just me” moment!
💬 “Be a mess because people who really love and respect you want you to be a human person—which means being a mess. You cannot remove mess and messiness from the human experience. You just need somebody who, when your soil is dry, will water it for you because they want you to thrive. ” - Caitlin Liz Fisher
Let’s talk about Breaking the Binary Mentality in Relationships:
How seasonal shifts can shake up your mental health
Why The Body Keeps the Score is basically a trauma bible
Learning to navigate emotions with DBT skills
The way past trauma shows up in present relationships (yep, even at the grocery store)
Sitting with discomfort, embracing the gray areas, and giving yourself grace to feel it all
Big Takeaway:
You don’t need to be "healed" to be loved. You just need people who will sit with you in the mess and love you through it.
Links and resources mentioned in this episode:
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
Bluey (yes, it’s a kids’ show, but trust me—it’s healing!)
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