This has been an orbiting concept that regularly visits my consciousness. By no means do I have it figured out. In the days since recording this, it has become clear to me that a frustration and resistance I have within myself is that my inner sense of self is not reflected in my outer confidence. This has been an ongoing shadow and refusal to admit that my rounded shouldered posture affects how I show up in the world.
I think maybe the true "goal" or natural way of being is when the two align. Also, I'm big into Ainslie MacLeod's work and he shared a great post about this conundrum. He says in his caption: "And sometimes the other person will sense an incongruence between what they see and what they feel. Then, this might send you further down the people-pleasing hole, thinking you need to “try harder,” rather than recognizing the need to be authentic." The whole post can be viewed here.
Enjoy :)
