Life
is like a game of tug of war, in most, if not all our relationships and
interactions, we all have our own agenda and hopefully, we all strive to be
fair too. Confidence is a learned and developed habit, with this being the
case it is super important that we create the right lines in every area of our
lives, and then we can just “hold the flag” over everyone we interact with. But there is a fine line between give and
take; one we need to uphold in balance for ourselves if we are striving to be more
confident. Overgiving is just as bad for ourselves as undergiving is bad
for others, neither way is the right way. If we overgive then it's a sign of
weakness to our primeval minds and this will cause us to lack confidence. Our
minds from the caveman days have all seen the importance of survival and that
we need to protect and take care of ourselves to survive. Don’t get me wrong, giving
selflessly is a great thing to do, but if this is something we do all the time
at the expense of ourselves, then this will be too much to sustain over long
periods. If we go on too long this way, we could run out of energy completely
so then we are no help to others or ourselves, which is not a great place to
end up. The people we are helping
wouldn't want us to break ourselves in the process of helping them, so it's
about finding the balance between give and take.
