We
looked in the last blog about saying no to others and making our lives more
balanced by the natural tug-of-war of relationships and life. This blog
wants to explore the more internal self-desires and limiters to saying no.
I think we can all say yes to the fact that, at times, we do things that we
really want to say no to but end up doing anyway. This could be eating that
chocolate bar, having that glass of wine, succumbing to drugs, take pain
killers, porn or sex addictions, smoking, vaping, buying clothes and
overshopping for things. These are just a few of the things we do that we say
to ourselves that we should say no to but then we end up doing. Why is this?
Why do we do this to ourselves? There are probably lots of different reasons
that have led us to this point but for many of us, at the root of this, is that
we don't feel we are in control and can say no.
As we grow up, we are learning lots of habits and beliefs in life and
these can still be ways that we continue to live our lives. This is great for
many of them, who would want to wake up every day and have to learn how to
walk, drive the car, talk, eat, understand English, and know how to use all
those things we have in our lives, which make our lives so much easier than we
have ever had before in the history of our development. From the phones,
washing machines, hoovers, dishwashers, heating, irons and all the other stuff
in this endless list of things we have now in our homes and workplaces. This is
the pleasure of our unconscious mind, that over time it learns these habits and
then we can do them without much effort at all.
