The holidays can stir up a full range of emotions, especially when you are carrying the weight of relational pain or the uncertainty of the healing process. In this episode, we step away from our usual structure and simply sit with you, offering a personal message of support for the weeks ahead.
We talk about giving yourself permission to be where you are, without pressure to feel a certain way or perform a picture perfect holiday season. We explore the importance of honoring your yes and your no, creating space for relief, grief, joy, overwhelm, and everything in between. We also speak directly to those walking through separation, fresh discovery, or ongoing tension during a time that is supposed to feel warm and connected.
Our hope is that this conversation feels like sitting at our kitchen table with us. You get to be honest about what you are holding this year, and you get to build the holiday you can manage, not the one you think you should create.
You will hear us talk about:
Giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are this season
Why pressure to be okay makes the holidays harder
How to identify a strong yes and a strong no
Ways couples can coordinate and protect their relational needs
Support for those not spending the holidays in familiar or expected ways
The unpredictability of grief and how naming emotions brings relief
Allowing joy without guilt, even while doing deep work
Why small moments of peace matter when you are carrying a lot
If you are looking for steadier footing through the holidays and beyond, our Courageous Together program can hold both of you through this process. It is a trauma informed roadmap designed to help couples understand where they are, where they are going, and how to work together while protecting the betrayed partner and supporting the recovering partner’s accountability.
Inside the program you will find
Weekly group circles for betrayed partners, recovering partners, and couples
A full video course that walks you through every stage of healing
Anonymous Q and A support with Geoff
Tools, worksheets, and a guided path you can follow at your own pace
A community that stays with you for as long as you need help
You can learn more and join us at https://www.courageoustogetherprogram.com/
