Codependency is an addiction, just like any other. It is often brought out into the light by a soul connection, which highlights to the extreme our inability to surrender. Beneath this inability is the pain and wounding that our egos have been trying to cover up, often for lifetimes (either our own or ancestral). So how do we understand we are codependent, and how do we shift this dynamic?
If you need more help on your healing journey, you may want to explore twin flame healing sessions. Also, these articles from my Healing Radiance blog may be helpful: