It a big mistake to say this, "I give God the first place" You cannot compartmentalize God - or to put Him in a box - when it comes to life. God does not take the first place, then family and so on.
Jesus says, that He did not come to bring peace but a sword. the sword represents the word of God. The word of God becomes our only pursuit, be it in the morning, or afternoon, be it in our relationships or businesses. The word takes the center stage and nothing else. If anyone loves anybody else or anything else other than Jesus, he has no part in Him and is not worthy of Him.
We, therefore, seek to abide in Jesus - in Him, in His Word, and in His love. When we learn to abide in His love - the highest level of abiding, His joy remains in us and our joy is fulfilled.
When our joy is fulfilled, we are able to love as we are loved.
