February 08, 2023
Daily Devotion:
"Setting Appropriate Boundaries"
EPHESIANS 4:32
Be kind and loving to each other, and forgive each other just as God forgave you in Christ.
Just because you're an adult doesn't mean your parent or parents aren't still your parents! For some blessed individuals, the transition to an adult relationship with parents is smooth, with natural, easy communication and interaction. Most Adults, though, have at least some difficulty shifting from dependence to a more equal, though respectful, relationship. Some of the key issues to resolve include- ·Letting go of the past: One of the hardest realities of life is that our parents aren't perfect. Perhaps you came from a divorced home or one that lacked warmth and affection. As an adult, you must let go of the past with forgiveness and perspective(Philippians 3:13-14).
Dealing openly with current conflicts: Because of respect and familiarity, we sometimes struggle to effectively address problems with those we love most. It is possible to honor your parents and confront disagreements and hurts by “speaking the truth in love" (Ephesians 4:15).
Accepting your parents for who they are: Just as you may have felt resentment toward your parents for trying to “control"your life, so you must extend the same honor and respect for their opinions, attitudes, and actions that you have desired for yourself. St.Peter said,“Love will cover a multitude of sins” (1Peter 4:8 NKJV).
Setting appropriate boundaries: When God instituted marriage,He said, “So a man will leave his father and mother and be united with his wife, and the two will become one body”(Genesis 2:24).Whether or not you are married, God expects you to take responsibility to build your own life. Countless Marriages are damaged when priority is placed on parents over spouses. Again, this in no way implies a lack of respect or active honoring of your parents.
Staying close and expressing love: Even if you must take the lead and be the one to initiate affection, tell and show your parents how much you love them by giving them your time.Don't hold back hugs and “I love you so." Remember, when you are a peacemaker,God blesses you (Matthew 5:9)!
