This week I jumped to hit record after a client and I pulled out some good nuggets about control. Often, when we automatically go to scroll, we’re not really there for the content (the things we watch, read and listen to). We’re there for the process and the associated feeling (numbing and subconsciously trying to control)
We’re not honest with ourselves (and our therapists!) about our verbs
We tell ourselves we are researching, when actually we are comparing
We say we are relaxing, when actually we are numbing
We say we are checking when actually we are distracting
Instead of surrendering to the fact that we ultimately can’t control things like:
How our children behave (they have free will)
How many followers we will get
How much money we will make
It feels incredibly uncomfortable to surrender so staying with the illusion of control can become a breeding ground for addiction. We ultimately numb, distract, avoid and control things to avoid pain.
Today, I'll share some compassionate tools you can use to recognise when you're using scrolling and checking as a way of controlling anxiety and stress
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