Transcript: We're back with another episode of Revelation and today, we're talking about how to give mindful compliments—or as I like to call them, "the kind of compliments you never get tired of hearing."
First off: Why do you need mindful compliments? Well, let's take a look at what happens when someone gives you an unmindful compliment. You might be in a conversation with a friend or coworker who says something like: "You look so good today! You must have lost weight." Or maybe they say: "Wow, your hair looks amazing! Have you gotten extensions?" These kinds of compliments tend to come from the heart but also from a place of insecurity and self-doubt. And while they might make us feel better about ourselves in that moment, we don't really want to be validated by other people's insecurity—especially when it's about our appearance.
So what's the alternative? It's called giving mindful compliments. When someone offers up one of these gems, it feels like they're actually thinking about how they want to help and support you—because they know how hard it is to feel attractive and confident every single day!
I think we're all pretty familiar with the idea that giving compliments is a good thing—but let's talk about some ways you can make them even better.
Give compliments freely and widely. In other words, make sure everyone feels like they're getting enough love—you don't want anyone feeling left out or overlooked. If there are people in your life who don't seem to get as many compliments as others, make a point of telling them how awesome they are at least once a week (or more!).
Second of all, try complimenting people on things that aren't easy for them to hear. For example: if someone has trouble with public speaking or being assertive, tell them how much you admire their ability to speak up! It'll mean so much more coming from you than anyone else because they know it took courage for you to say those words. It'll also help them build up their confidence over time because they know how much their friends and family believe in them!
When you're giving a compliment, you want to make sure that you're being mindful of the person you're talking to.
So how do you do that?
Here are three tips:
1. Think about what makes them special. What do they like? What are their interests? What makes them different from other people?
2. Make sure your compliment is about something real and genuine about their personality or their actions—not just about how they look, or whether or not they're wearing something new today.
3. Make sure your compliment is sincere—don't just throw compliments around without really meaning them! If someone asks for a compliment, give them one! But if someone doesn't ask for one… don't give one anyway!
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