🔸 This is different. I try to make good on my commitment to followup with an exile, but that "shoveler" was from the wrong notes, wrong caller. Sorry, Ian. Still, Self is present & we make progress, but how many of us are in the room…?
🔹 Part (Location, Fear, Rather be doing, Age, Needs):
🎓 What I'd like to do differently:
Ok I need a better note-taking system.
As a student, I see so much to unpack and review in this call...
Yes I had suspicions from the start when it seemed too easy to go to this exile. And then I talked too much, from naive optimism that maybe all was well. In hindsight, obviously, there was a lot I could have done differently there.
I didn’t feel like I had the right language or the freedom to say what I was seeing sooner. And perhaps my own parts are ashamed or resentful of what I am calling the “no problem” part.
But I did see it sooner, as “how does he feel?” was never answered straight, or in the use of “I think…”.
I was just winging it with the “go journal on it” suggestion. I didn’t know how else to work here. I could have gone direct access, etc, sooner.
Finally, thinking “should I just say what I see?” Cuz I feel like that’s the least I can do. ""If I fail as a 'practitioner', in that moment, I can at least be an honest witness.""
I'm praying we hear from Ian again, I want to get this right.
**UPDATE** He just texted me the list!
Here it is:
**Jibberish**
-----
🗳 Send anonymous feedback to James: Feedback Form
😀Come chat with us: Discord
🙏PLEASE help Internal Family Systems reach more people. Subscribe, give a rating, or comment here:
Itunes
YouTube
How to leave a review - iPhone
👉 Find your ACE score with this one-page questionairre
"
