Share Fears? Be vulnerable? Yes, yes, and yes. We all have a level of fear because we are humans and we can't change that no matter how hard we try to pretend.
The fact of the matter is that it's okay to be fearful because there are things to be fearful for. Specifically in a realationship we fear how the other person is going to receive, react or run when we share our fears with them. Just remember they are intitled to their feelings, thoughts and actions. Its what you decide to do together that matters once the fears are shared.
The upside to sharing our fears is that no matter the action from the other person it is indeed an action and now you actually have a direction in which to address the issue. Also, honor their fears. But what if, the fear you feared the most was merely an assumption because you took it upon yourself to think for your partner?
One very important lesson Carolyn and I learned early in our relationship was to allow each other to be responsible for our own actions, feelings and fears. Never to assume how the other is going to react to a certain situation, suggestions or a needed change. When it happens we remind each other by saying; "Get out of my head." (lovingly of course) It's a quick reminder and we move on.
This practice foster's a positive environment for each of us to not be fearful to talk, ask or suggest anything regarding our intimate relationship or work relationship.
Fearful or not, sharing is absolutely the best way to build trust when you are vulnerable with your partner.
XO Sonia & Carolyn
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