This is one of my favorite elements in our relationship because I get to take care of just me! Does this sound selfish? Not to me. Who knows you better than yourself. In most cases, we do for others and we forget about ourselves. The flip coin of taking time out for yourself is that being an individual also means having the capacity to stand on your own, trusting that YOU can do so much as an individual apart from your partner. Yes, we always need support in all things and thats okay. Still we are individuals together.
I shared with Carolyn years ago that I needed an equal partner that understood the importance of self-care. I'm known for taking the time I need without guilt or shame. Carolyn use to ask me how I did it. How do you put yourself first and not feel bad about it? My answer was and still is that I take care of myself because I love ME. Its not conceit or vanity. Hear me on this. It's reaching for that oxygen bag first so that I can show up fully for whatever comes my way.
Carolyn and I are together, share everything and still we are individuals in your relationship.
