So you’ve finally decided to begin working towards your health and fitness goals.
You’re eating healthier. Hitting the gym.
And you’re starting to see some changes. You’re also feeling happier, more confident, and proud for keeping the promises you make to yourself.
Then someone in your life shows up to rain on your parade. Maybe it’s a family member, friend, or a coworker. And suddenly you start hearing phrases like:
Oh come on, live a little!
One bite won’t hurt you!
You’re no fun anymore!
How much weight are you going to lose? You’re getting too skinny!
You don’t need to lose weight! You look great already!
Feeling unsupported sucks. It’s frustrating and hurtful. It can make you question your intentions. And if you let it get to you, it can throw you completely off track.
But you can’t let it. You must keep going. Because your goals don't have to make sense to anyone but you.
As humans, we are hard wired to want to feel like part of a tribe. So as soon as you start to better yourself, the other people in your life who aren't ready to do the same, will try to bring you back down so you can stay at their level.
Because if you change, they worry you'll leave them behind in the prices. And that can feel scary for someone who isn't secure with themself.
So now they feel triggered, which they project onto you. Because you’re making the changes they can’t seem to make for themselves. Or they fear you might outgrow the relationship.
Whatever the case, it’s not a sign you are doing anything wrong.
On this week's episode of the Decades of Strength podcast, we talk all about how to handle those haters. Will arm you with the strategies and help you have the hard conversations with those in your life who aren't being supportive.
