Today we are diving into the sea of confidence in relationships.
Let's talk about
*How we perceive ourselves will flow into our relationships.
You both have a confidence in your life's purpose. Two emotionally independent people. The relationship means a great deal to you both but you have your own lives, own interests and you pursue these. If you don't have these, there may be a sign of low confidence and codependency might be happening.
*You cannot live in fear of giving
If you're always afraid that others will take advantage of you or use you...or won't give you something in return, you are living in fear. If you are constantly feeling like you are being used in relationships, you don't have clear boundaries. So to get confident in what you bring to the table and what you need from a partner, you have to get clear on what you want and why.
* Never feel threatened by others.
In a healthy relationship, you and your partner are not going to feel full rage jealousy. You trust and have confidence in your partner.
*No engaging in passive aggressive behavior. Confidence in yourself leads to confidence in your relationship leafs to full communication. You won't "punish" each other. Instead you communicate assertively. You do this coming from a place of love without making them feel criticism.
*you both focus on self improvement.
Your both focused on healing, improvement and learning. Not as a temporary thing but a life long deal.
Actionable items :
1. What am I telling myself?
Am I saying a dialogue of "why would they love me?" "Why are they with me?"
Or "Why do I always do this "insert here" in relationships.
Write out the narrative your telling yourself.
2. What are my barriers to me feeling confident?
Mindset keeping you stuck - "they won't love me if I'm fully myself"
Struggling with comparison- " my partner is so physically fit and I'm not"
Struggle with imposter syndrome - not feeling good enough
Compare "what you think the relationship should look like" to what it is
Not knowing what you really want
3. Start to get clear on how you want to feel about yourself. Then get clear about how you want to feel in your relationship. Start with small goals.
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