What happens when competition doesn’t stay on the field—but follows us into love, work, and everyday relationships?
In this episode, I bring together two powerful books: The Competitive Species by David Buss and Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson. We explore how our evolutionary drive to compete can quietly sabotage relationships, distort our perceptions, and push us into conflicts we don’t even realize we’re creating.
We break down why people cling to being “right,” how self-justification blinds us to our own mistakes, and how much damage is caused not by bad intentions—but by a deep unawareness of the reality we’re living in. From romantic dynamics to social status and ego, this episode unpacks the hidden psychological forces that keep us stuck in cycles of blame, rivalry, and misunderstanding.
If you’ve ever wondered why relationships turn adversarial, why apologies feel impossible, or why people double down instead of reflecting—this conversation pulls back the curtain.
Insightful, uncomfortable, and necessary listening.
