Learning to own when I am part of a “problem” I’m having has
changed my life!
It’s still a work in progress, but if you really think about
it and embrace this idea, it means that the solution is also within our
control.
So powerful!
Imagine living a life where you can fix all, or most, of the
problems you now have? Amazing… and it’s
true!
How this works:
1.
Think of a problem you’re having, and that you
believe someone else is causing it.
2.
Think of the way(s) in which you have contributed in creating said problem? (too often we leave
this out)
3.
Examine in
detail why you believe it’s “their” fault alone, and your thoughts about it
(what are your thoughts telling you?)
When we assign blame for our problems to other people, we
take ourselves out of the equation of having co-created the problem, and worse
yet, we believe it’s not within out control to fix things… so disempowering!!
There two flawed thoughts:
“I’m not responsible/not my fault/not within my control.”
“This should not
be happening.”
None of the two thoughts above serve us.
A better thought would be…
“Why should I be miserable because of the thoughts or how
other people choose to live their lives”?
Thoughts to try on/choices
to make:
Own your part in the “problem”.
Take control of what you can do/control.
Decide on thoughts to have/an action to take.
Take other people’s past experiences/hurts into account…
have compassion for them.
IMPORTANT:
If you are in an abusive
relationship and you don’t feel safe,
call the National Domestic
Violence Hotline!
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Hours: 24/7. Languages: English, Spanish and
200+ through interpretation service
800-799-7233
OR text START to 88788
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