I can't count how many times i have heard the statement: "But why me?" Here is why, Elect Lady: That situation was to push you to the cross, so that you could relate with Jesus better.
And after Jesus has completed His good work in you, you will not believe how many people are waiting out there, for you to deliver them, with the help of the one who helped you, Jesus.
Because only you understand what it feels like to go through what you have been through, and therefore are able to relate with people in that category, and can gently hold them by the hand and lead them to our Merciful Savior.