What we do in any situation is either a response, a reaction, or inaction. Peter and Todd discuss their thoughts and perspectives about stimulus and what we do in reply to it. We share with each other, and you all, how playing with the exposed dials led us to more meaningful ways to learn from these things.
Related points:
- First responders, not first reactors.
- A reaction may not move a situation forward, a response may be more effective.
- Can responses become more natural or override reactions?
- Transactional vs Transformational interactions.
- Intoxication leads to poor reactions.
- A pause in time to contemplate how we respond, vs a knee jerk reaction without thinking.
- In the moment, reactions can have a greater impact or utility (think safety).
Mental habit / action / tool examples:
- Taking time when we see we have reacted and use that as a point to consider how to respond differently in the future - leads to being a more transformational figure for others.
- If you don't know something, state that as your response.
- Owning our shortcomings can garner respect from others.
- Look for emotions in ourselves to be aware of opportunities to better respond.
Quotes/quips:
- "If you do the easy things now, life will be hard. If you do the hard things now, life will be easy."
- "Always tell someone why you are teaching them, what you are teaching them."
- "The more difficult response becomes the most rewarding in the end."
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