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Knowing how to "validate your emotion" is a hot topic these days..but what the heck does it actually mean?! This episode breaks it all down. Topics include: **What validating is NOT **3 core concepts to remember when a difficult feeling arises to keep you out of judgment and in curiosity **How to validate your emotions in a way that fosters inner strength and resilience **The self-coaching tool of processing an emotion - a MUST practice for good emotional health If you've felt confused about what it means to actually honour your feelings in a way that empowers you to move THROUGH them and not get stuck, this episode lays it out step by step. Want to connect with me? Please do! I can be found on instagram or through my site. I welcome any questions or podcast requests! :)
**** In the episode I mention that emotions have no meaning. This does not mean that don't have both a very real and important purpose, or that they don't come with a message for you, filled with insight and lessons. Not having meaning is strictly refering to the fact that the vibration of feelings only comes with meaning once our conscious mind gets involved and starts judgment and resisting. Chronic pain is another good example (ie. Experiencing a painful feeling in your lower back) - it doesn't mean that there is always an injury, but it does mean that your body has wired that pain signal in habitually, and it is often made worse because it comes with a layer of emotional pain as well ABOUT the perceived physical pain. Not giving chronic pain meaning has been a well-documented strategy in healing it. A bruised knee - no meaning or judgment on it - its just broken blood vessels in your knee. Those are neutral facts. Discomfort in the body always comes with your brain wanting to add judgment and emotional pain on top of it, but that IS optional, and mostly, not helpful to get through it. Making meaning is fine, but let's do it on the OTHER side of processing, where our front brain is more in charge and the thoughts we have are more rational and trustworthy. This is not to say that listening to what your emotions have to say in the moment is never a good idea, for example if you have fear walking in a dark park at night, or being near someone who abused you, but even your choices and course of action in those situations would benefit from a less-stressed system so that your options become more clear and you're able to execute effectively.***
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