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"The opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it's connection". This powerful quote brings us to our topic today, where I am discussing what it looks like to do accountability in a way that is truly helpful to your recovery from porn addiction or other unwanted sexual behaviours. So many times, I see people with good intentions get themselves into accountability groups or relationships that are just not helpful...
I want to shake things up today and help you see why partnering safety + discomfort is the best way to do accountability. Safety is crucial to recovery, that's a given! You must feel safe with a few key people in your life you can go to them with your struggles, temptations, relapses, etc. The kicker here is that these people should also create an environment for you that is uncomfortable... Not that they aren't loving, encouraging, and gracious, but they must also be challenging and direct for you to actually grow and change your ways.
Safety = being seen and loved no matter what: They will be there for you as if they were Jesus with skin on
Discomfort = Creating a growth environment: They will call out your blind spots, hold you accountable and keep a standard
We all have many relationships in our lives. Its good to have a variety of them too! We all need to have friends who we play sports with, co workers who we gel with, family members who we can just vent to... But in all of this, we must have allies, friends, mentors, and coaches who are willing to be the helping hands to our growth week in and week out.
It will be your job to invite these people into your story... It's your job to seek out people who are safe and ask them to walk with you, to help you, to guide you. Its your job to let go of assumptions, lies and shame so you can see clearly and realize you 100% have a handful of people if your life you could have a safe + growth-focused relationship with.
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Looking for lasting freedom from porn? START with one of our 3 options here:
1. Book a Call with our Team to work 1:1 with Coach Shawn: https://secrethabit.ca/call/
2. Enroll in a DIY Mini Course: https://secrethabit.thinkific.com/
3. Grab Our Free 90 Day Porn Withdrawal Guide: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1SIG3jTjSAtEtsqxqHDI8fNG7m9L8mAv5/view?usp=sharing
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Resource mentioned:
Family Life Canada Marriage Mentoring Program
