This episode is based on this post I wrote in our DeepClean private community (learn more about Inner Circle):
Last week I was working 1:1 with a client to help him pinpoint some wounds from his past.
The challenge?
He didn’t know what happened to cause the wounds.
He knew something was there — he has struggles today to prove it — but he just couldn’t pinpoint what happened.
And honestly?
I see this all the time.
Guys want to really dial in the trauma story. It makes sense… we want clarity. But let me remind you —
👉 It’s not totally necessary.
The focus of healing isn’t about perfectly remembering what happened. It’s about recognizing what still lives inside you.
The emotions you felt that never got processed (the ones you still wrestle with)
The thoughts you had that never got shared (the ones you still carry)
The needs you had that never got met (the ones you still seek to fill in unhealthy ways)
When you focus here, you may discover the full story — or maybe not.
Either way, you’re working directly with the part of trauma that can actually heal.
If you can name those 3 things — emotion, thought, and need — you now have real clarity on what you’re up against.
Then comes the good part: learning how to work through X emotion, Y thought, and Z longing.
That’s my super simple approach to recovery — and I love seeing how it changes men’s lives, time and time again. 💪
This episode is all about unpacking this idea and helping you make recovery simple!
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