There are a lotta gurus and experts out there pushing mindset lately. I HATE IT.
YOU JUST gOtTa haVe an AbunDanCe MindSetT Brooooooo. THen it'll all come naturally.
NAH. I'm debunking that shit right now. Today.
1. Mindset is EARNED. I started off believing I was ugly. I didn't become someone who thought of themselves as an attractive person by thinking positive thoughts and doing daily affirmations. I earned that belief by putting myself in uncomfortable situations because I thought I was going to die alone. Your pain is fuel. Use it to push to the next level. Where do you begin? Look to see where you're most uncomfortable, then begin chipping away. You don't have to be perfect at it. If you want to be an expert though, you have to be willing to go where no one else has gone.
Mindset ONLY comes as a result of concerted effort, action, risk, and discomfort.
2. It's easier for gurus to pitch mindset because it requires no effort. People will accept it. But we all know that one person who's always trying to force themselves to be positive. It comes off fake. Plastic. Same goes with mindsets. Once you have them, they're so goddamn useful. But when you do not, you cannot THINK, cajole, or affirm your way into believing it.
3. In fact, there is ONLY 1 useful mindset ---- and it is this: if someone else has done it, it's POSSIBLE for you to do it, too. No matter how unlikely it may seem - there is a way. It's your job to find it. The minute you close yourself off to the possibility that something MIGHT be attainable, you're screwed. You're stuck. There's no way out for you now. Might as well throw in the towel.
To achieve incredible things, you MUST FIRST BELIEVE IT CAN BE DONE.
I saw this a lot on Reddit. Men who were convinced they would never be able to "convince" a gal to love them for who they really were. It might work for chads and alphas. But "not for me". And those same people will forever be doomed to be single, alone, and bitter until they accept that it's POSSIBLE to learn how to become attractive.
