Greetings from Keeping it 100 Women of God I want to thank everyone who listen to the last podcast and who left me kind messages.In 1995, 28 years ago.I open residential licensed group homes in San Diego, Ca.I wanted to work with, mentor, and care for foster girls who need it direction.The group homes were long-term placements which meant the girls can stay as long as they wanted and needed it with approval of their county social workers.Some remained in the program for six months,one year, two years, and up to six years, sometimes two days.These were teenage girls, 13 to 19 years old.At one point, I was responsible for 18 girls. They all had social workers,Educational advocate, and attorneys.Some had parents and extended family members who were involved in their lives.I was in my early 30s.I worked with the girls representatives, some parents, and family members, sometimes on a daily, weekly and monthly basis.Can you imagine all the personalities I had to learn to work with?Let me tell you,it wasn’t easy. Some of these professionals were older. Some were young, somewhere males, but most were females.Many were very kind and professional, others were very moody bossy with major attitudes. Family members included.However, I felt blessed to be in a position to plant seeds and these young,innocent young ladies lives.It wasn’t their fault they ended up in the foster care system.But I knew I was responsible for teaching them to have a relationship with God, to ensure they completed their high school education,learned to work hard, and become independent but most importantly,learn to forgive their parents.I would ask the girls if they realize their parents had experienced past hurt and pain that accumulated to making them unfit to care for them. They couldn’t answer that question. Many parents were attics of some sort, some girls never knew their parents, others might have been incarcerated or homeless, and some we’re not mentally equipped to handle bad teenagers so they ended up in the system.I Taught these young ladies that we all have passed hurt and pain that needed to be uncovered to learn to forgive those who had hurt us.Suppose you sugarcoat pass hurt and pain and never address or uncovered it.If that is the case, you would constantly be suppressing your deep rooted feelings, and eventually they will come out negatively, with anger.And that is what you don’t want.I became the person I am today because I stop holding on to my Pass hurt and pain by uncovering it one layer at a time.I went back to visit my wounds.I wrote down every person’s name that hurt me and started uncovering the past hurt and tried to understand why.once I started pulling back each layer of hurt and pain, I understood that the other person who hurt me Probably didn’t mean to because they had underlying issues they hadn’t address or refused to address.Does this make sense?I was so mad at my parents at one point, but the more I understood their stories and problems, the easier it was for me to forgive them. my parents refuse to look in the mirror and admit they had underlying issues. In that case, you may not be able to do anything about their problems but accept who they are and work on healing yourself and learn to forgive them.God can help you.I couldn’t do it by myself. I need to God to help me humble my heart and give me grace.And he did, and I now i can look at my parents, friends, family members, and strangers with love and not judge them but pray for them. This period in my career was the best time of my life. To teach angry, depressed, moody, beautiful teenage girls who were once like me to be all they can be. The Takeaway for today’s message is to revisit and uncover your underline hurt and ask yourself why am I so hurt, disappointing and bothered about the person or parent who hurt me. Ask yourself why is it so hard for me to let go. To set it free and to accept the situation because I can’t change it. Ask God to help you understand their story
